This is a warning about the lures.
The lures of “Godly, submissive, Christian women bloggers who write about marriage and how to be a good wife.”
You heard me.
Those chicks be dangerous. They got them some hooks. And they look so good, don’t they?
But dangerous they are. Dangerous to your wives and dangerous to you–both single and married.
And their danger is the same regardless of whether they are sincere or not. Let’s look at some of those dangers.
First, the danger to your wife (if you have one). These bloggers, let’s call them “Submissive Christian Women-Bloggers (SCWs), will lead your wife away from you. SCWs will do this regardless of whether or not they are actually submissive to their own husbands. If the SCW is submissive to her own husband, she will teach your wife to follow her as she follows her husband. If the SCW is not submissive to her own husband, she will teach your wife to follow her as she wanders around aimlessly. Note the constant in both scenarios–your wife follows the SCW rather than you. This is because any blog that intends to teach a woman how to be a good wife implicitly makes itself an authority on the same–directly in conflict with a husband’s authority.
Your wife is not under the authority of SCWs, and thus ought not to be looking to them for instruction. No instruction comes without authority.
I should say that again: no instruction comes without authority. That is why one is said to submit to instruction. Consider that well when you choose who you allow to instruct your wife.
But there is a danger to you beside the danger to your wife–if you are perusing such sites. Such sites lie to you about the Daughters of Eve. The lures just seem to sashay more than the real minnows–to look just a little jucier, despite being made of balsa rather than flesh. What do I mean? I mean they give false impressions of submission and rebellion. To read SCWs, you’d think that only the bad Christian wives rebel. The good Christian wives (SCWs, of course!) never rebel, and are only occasionally tempted to rebel.
Which, naturally, is a load of horseshit.
Reading that doesn’t prepare you to deal effectively with rebellion. It gives a wrong impression of submission. It leads you to believe that it’s just something your wife chooses to do, and then when she doesn’t, you don’t know what to do. You wonder if you picked one of the bad ones instead of one of the good ones, rather than yoking the plow and breaking up that fallow ground. But all Daughters of Eve rebel. She has a sin nature as surely as you do. So, while submission is peaceful, the struggle that leads up to the submission is not–although the struggle should happen less over time.
Whom a man follows, him doth he serve.
It’s true for women too. Don’t send your wife to follow and serve some other man’s wife. Keep your springs to yourself.
And don’t bite the lure yourself. Don’t read submission-porn.
If you’re married, and starving for submission, enjoy the fruits of your labor–don’t use a cheap substitute.
If you’re single, don’t fall into the trap of becoming so enthralled by the fake and easy perfection in the submission-porn lure that you refuse to engage in the real-word good God made because “standards.”
No true good in this world will come to you but by the sweat of your brow.
A submissive wife is a great good–expect to put in a great amount of work. Be joyful in your labor, enjoy its fruits, and avoid the lures of the Devil.
You shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands; you shall be blessed, and it shall be well with you. Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table. —Psalm 128:2-3 (ESV)