Among a cohort of men who firstly, believe that maybe 1 woman in 1000 is even worthy of marriage to begin with and secondly, are specifically concerned for the well being of their fellow Christian brothers and young men in particular, the notion that a man should make odds for those men even more daunting by multiplying wives for himself strikes me as particularly selfish and unloving.
And no, I don’t have a horse in this race. My man says that one woman (even when you have a good one) is more than enough to deal with.
With no ill will towards Elspeth, no woman is worthy of marriage. If you wait until you find a worthy woman, you will never marry (and that is acceptable).
She strikes toward the truth in the second paragraph, despite denying it in the first.
Marriage is a type of Christ and the church.
The church has never been, and on this planet never will be, worthy of Christ’s attention, affection, undying love, and sacrifice.
This is a hard saying, but worthy of repetition.
You marry a woman not because she is worthy, but in order to perfect her, and to perfect yourself by Christ working through you. Many men will choose not to shoulder the burden of marriage. Marriage, no matter how enjoyable it may sometime be, is ultimately a burden and a cross.
Marriage may not be your cross, but you have a cross, and you must pick it up to follow Christ.
The man on whom is laid doubly the cross of marriage is not more selfish, but less selfish for it. To whom much is given, from him much is demanded. He must pour himself out doubly.
Do not envy or demean another’s cross. Rather, bear your own well.