For among them are those who creep into households and capture weak women, burdened with sins and led astray by various passions, always learning and never able to arrive at a knowledge of the truth. —2 Timothy 3:6-7 (ESV)
The wisdom of banning female commenters continues to become more evident. Consider this comment, which a female attempted to leave on my post J. Lee Grady: Christian women should not marry men who believe the Bible. This woman shows the absence of her male authority, and this is my attempt to send that ass home.
I see why we have not progressed to evangelize the world. So many of us are so Pharisaical in our views. Instead of reading the word as complete and infallible, so many try to read it with the lens of man instead of the intent God has. Lee Grady has never advised women to “demand your right to the single best man ever to exist other than Jesus” as you wrote.
In guiding men and women he shows us the goal and advises us to rely on Holy Spirit to empower us toward those goals. He advises women and men to choose a believer to marry. If God ordains a marriage, He will work out what He wants out of each person’s life which is definitely one of His intentions for marriage. I pray God is merciful to you in your misrepresentation of His will.
Here is another article that Lee wrote giving a more honest representation of his views: http://www.charismamag.com/blogs/fire-in-my-bones/7229-the-dark-side-of-submission
I pray you have a Damascus Road experience. I am sure Paul believed he was doing the right thing also. God bless you.
I know you’re probably laughing out loud right now at those great swelling words of emptiness. I laughed a little too, but then I clicked the link. The heresies of J. Lee Grady in this article are even greater and more diabolical than those in the article I wrote about earlier. Consider his opening:
During a past ministry trip to Hungary, I heard a painfully familiar story. Through a translator, a tearful young woman living near Budapest explained that her Christian husband was angrily demanding her absolute submission. This included, among other things, that she clean their house according to his strict standards and that she engage in sexual acts with him that made her feel uncomfortable and dirty.
Notice how cunning he is–he is purposely vague, hoping that the reader will come to the conclusion that just because this lady “felt uncomfortable and dirty” with these sex acts, that they must be deviant ones. Considering that I have heard several married woman complain that simply having sex with their husbands makes them feel “uncomfortable and dirty,” we can translate his story thusly:
“In Hungary, I met a woman whose husband expected her to keep the house clean and have sex with him.”
How frightening! A man who expects his wife to be a wife. We certainly can’t have that–clearly, it must be an abuse of Scripture!
And it’s not just in Hungary. J. Lee Grady goes on to explain that we have our own problems here in the US:
And in some conservative churches in the United States, women are told that obedience to God is measured by their wifely submission—even if their husbands are addicted to alcohol or pornography or if they are involved in adulterous affairs.
How enraging! Some conservative churches accurately teach what the Bible says! How is this tolerated? Sure, Peter said exactly that, but
the one who sits on Peter’s seat the Pope some pastor somewhere J. Lee Grady authoritatively added exceptions where you don’t have to “suffer unjustly to please God” as Peter said if your husband is “addicted to alcohol or pornography.” And if these new exceptions aren’t loose enough to apply to you, understand that the definitions are loose–if your husband has ever had a beer, or ever leafed through a Playboy, you qualify for an exemption to Peter’s command to please God by being submissive “not only to those who are good and gentle, but also to those who are perverse.”
Now, you may be wondering how we can solve this problem of a man in Hungary expecting his wife to be a wife and some conservative churches teaching what the Bible says instead of what J. Lee Grady says. Well, wonder no longer: J. Lee Grady lists “three truths we must uncover in order to solve this problem:”
1. Marriage is not a hierarchy. Traditionalists assume that a Christian marriage is defined as a dominant husband who makes all family decisions while the wife graciously obeys without input. Yet Scripture actually portrays marriage as a loving partnership and refers to the wife as a “fellow heir of the grace of life” (1 Peter 3:7, NASB). And the apostle Paul taught that in the realm of sexuality, husbands and wives share equal authority over each other’s bodies (1 Cor. 7:4). In other words, submission in this most intimate part of a marriage covenant is mutual, and this same mutuality is the key to any happy marriage; it fosters respect, communication and an enduring bond.
Note the cunning of J. Lee Grady again here. He lies in the same cunning way his father the Devil lied in the garden–by telling a partial truth. Indeed, 1 Peter 3:7 in the NASB refers to the wife as a “fellow heir of the grace of life.” Yet the main gist of the verse is not about equality or a “partnership.” Rather the opposite:
You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. —1 Peter 3:7 (NASB)
It’s rather bold of J. Lee Grady to craft his lie in such a way as to use a portion of a verse that clearly says that the wife is not equal to her husband, but is weaker, to claim that the wife is equal. Such boldness in falsehood is not the mark of one deceived, but the mark of one who knows the truth full well and is attempting to deceive others. It is clear that his goal–like his father’s in the garden–is to deceive and capture weak women. He continues this path in his second “truth.”
2. Headship is not a license to control. Traditionalists also cite Ephesians 5:23 to remind wives that their husbands are their “heads”—and they believe this term requires some type of dictatorial control in marriage. Yet the Greek word used in this passage, kephale, does not have anything to do with heavy-handed authority, and it cannot be used to enforce male domination. Neither does it imply male superiority. The word can either mean “source” (as in the source of a river) or “one who leads into battle” (as a protector).
Neither original definition of this word gives room for abuse. Headship, in its essence, is not about who’s the boss. Rather, it refers to the Genesis account of Eve being taken from Adam’s side. The husband is the “source” of the wife because she originated from him, and she is intimately connected to him in a mystical union that is unlike any other human relationship.
Once again, J. Lee Grady uses clever half-truths to propagate falsehood. First, “source” is authority. God repeatedly asserts that He has authority over us because He created us. Parents have authority over children because they are the source of those children. Source does denote authority. And “one who leads into battle?” We call that person a general, and he has absolute authority over all he leads into battle, to the point of deciding whether to sacrifice their lives or not. But even this is nothing compared to the twisting J. Lee Grady does for his 3rd “truth:”
3. Men who abuse their wives are out of fellowship with God. First Peter 3:7 is clear: “You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so your prayers will not be hindered.” Wife abuse is no trivial sin. Any man who berates his wife, treats her as inferior or engages in abusive behavior (including hitting, kicking, raping, cursing at or threatening punishment) will jeopardize his fellowship with the Lord. He will feel frustrated and convicted until he repents.
Interesting. We find here that J. Lee Grady does know perfectly well what the rest of the verse he purposely only quoted part of earlier says. And once again he shows the boldness of a deceiver, rather than the confusion of the deceived. Immediately after quoting a verse that says the wife is inferior to (weaker than) her husband, and should be treated in an understanding way because she is inferior (weaker), J. Lee Grady claims that “Any man who treats his wife as inferior will jeopardize his fellowship with the Lord.” So any man who treats his wife in the manner prescribed by God jeopardizes his fellowship with God–wrap your head around that one.
J. Lee Grady has demonstrated that he is one who creeps into households and captures weak women. Avoid him and his kind. Keep his evil writings far away from your wife and family. He opposes the truth, and is corrupted in mind and disqualified regarding the faith.