Help me keep my sister out of college

My sister, Gazelle, graduates from high school this summer. Even though she doesn’t know what she wants to do with her life, she is under intense pressure from every person she knows other than myself and our father to go to college. What makes it even worse is that she goes to a religious high school. Thus she is encouraged to shell out the extra money to attend a private religious college under the assumption that going to a religious college is the only way she could possibly meet (and marry) a Christian man.

I gave her a copy of Worthless. I’ve suggested a number of alternatives. But I’m fighting the advice of all her teachers, people who she thinks know better than I. “It doesn’t matter if you don’t know what you want to do, you just need to get a degree in something.” “It might be expensive, but there are lots of loans available. A degree is one thing that’s always worth going in debt for.” Your teachers are wrong, Gazelle.

“But, Moose, you went to college!” I did. I worked 30-50 hours a week depending on how much work my various part time jobs would give me, and a skipped every social event I was invited to. I lived off of free food given away at a local church for several months, and I kept my thermostat at 40 throughout the winter to save money. I did all that to get a piece of paper that all my teachers said would be “an investment” and “worth it.” Three years later, I am still paying off the loans, and my degree is completely and totally superfluous to my job–and my job is in my degree field!

I’ve tried to tell her to just get a job, and then if she really wants a college degree use online classes or a local community college to get general ed requirements completed without debt. But she doesn’t know what she wants to do for a job, and her teachers tell her the best way to figure that out is to spend four years in college. I tell her the best way to find out is to just take any job, so that when she has the epiphany she has work experience and money in the bank. However, the voice of one elder brother can only do so much against a cacophony of teachers.

So I’m looking for help. I have until June to convince Gazelle that college is not a requirement, and save her from the slavery of student loan debt. If you have advice for Gazelle, comment here or email I will pass on all emails to her. Help me convince Gazelle that her teachers are wrong. Help me keep my sister out of college.

7 thoughts on “Help me keep my sister out of college

  1. Tell your sister to join the Air Force or Coast Guard. I am a LTC in the Army and I have had many soldiers, male and female, who did not know what they wanted to do. Joining these two services gives you time to 1) get some college credit under your belt by way of training and 2) gives you time and experience to decide what you want. I provide these two options because the Army, Navy and Marine Corps are, in my opinion, not a good venue for a person who is trying to find their “epiphany”. If your sister wants an career in the military, I would advise the Army as the best option. This is because you can achieve more rank and education faster than the other services. The other services mentioned are excellent but is harder to get promoted. I hope I was helpful and the best of luck to you and your sister.

  2. This may sound weird coming from a Christian man who opposes feminism, but…

    Check out Camille Paglia’s writings. She’s a lesbian feminist college professor who is opposed to the “everyone must go to college” myth. For instance:

    “What is the reason why everyone has to go to college? Especially when college is so utterly meaningless right now, it has no core curriculum” and “people end up saddled with huge debts,” says Ms. Paglia. What’s driving the push toward universal college is “social snobbery on the part of a lot of upper-middle-class families who want the sticker in the window.”

    Or this one:

    “What’s been imposed on women is a male model of professional study and achievement.”

    She also encourages young women who want a husband and children to do that first.

    “If colleges and universities are really concerned about women’s rights, then they must adjust to a far more flexible structure to allow young women students to take leaves of absence if they want to have children early. Schools should say, “you can be married and have children. We’ll have daycare centres for you. You can take 10 years to finish your degree—husbands, too.”

    Hope this helps. Many decades ago my little sister, a very intelligent young lady, decided against college and went to secretarial school for a year–then got married and had children.

    She met her young man in church. He didn’t have any college, either. His job was barely above entry level. But he was bright and determined to get ahead. She grabbed hold with both hands and never let go.

    When her husband started his own business she kept the books from home. Gradually, as the kids got older, she took on more and more responsibility. She also home-schooled; her girls learned to be office assistants from an early age.

    The girls are now grown up. Sis and her hubby are quite well-to-do. And quite happy.

  3. All I can say is from my personal experience, DO NOT go to college unless you have a specific career goal in mind and college would actually help in doing it. Engineering comes to mind. In my case I got a degree in English, and couldn’t find a job to save my life. Most employers these days want people with experience, and college does not count as such. My cousin got a business degree and still cannot find a job, because he has no experience. Employers value experience over degrees these days because degrees are essentially worthless. Time is your most valuable thing, and your time is better spent out there doing work and getting actual experience rather than getting a worthless piece of paper. The only degrees of any worth out there anymore are degrees involving science and technology. Soft stuff like the liberal arts or even business degrees are a waste of your time.

  4. Any religious man worth his salt will hate college and advise every woman he knows not to go. I’m single, 28, and every girl I date, meet, or talk to who hasn’t gone to college I tell not to go. Very few jobs require it, and most husbands would rather not deal with additional debt. They want to raise a holy family, not have extra chains of the world wrapped around the family for 10 years of paying off those debts.

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