Bob is homeless

He’s been living with a church member for almost a month now, and is still legally prohibited from returning to his house. If it wasn’t for church friends, he wouldn’t have anywhere to go and likely would have had to go to a shelter. It’s cold here this time of year, and Bob couldn’t even stay with his parents as they live in Tennessee and he cannot move out of state until his criminal case is concluded–and his court date is still several weeks out. His wife drained their joint bank account, and left him penniless until the court adjudicates their assets in the divorce proceedings. Bob has been able to see his kids a few times in the past few weeks, but only briefly. The kids haven’t been to church since Bob got arrested. 

Bob’s been holding up alright, considering. The older church member he is staying with heats his house with wood, so Bob has been spending his days chopping and stacking wood, giving him good exercise and an outlet for frustrations. He’s also started an additional workout routine involving body-weight exercises and some weight-lifting. I’ve considered pointing Bob towards some books/blogs that might help him navigate this time, but so far I haven’t. I’m not sure what resources would be most useful for him, so if you have suggestions, feel free to let me know. 

And please keep Bob in your prayers.

4 thoughts on “Bob is homeless

  1. @ jvangeld

    I’d rather not accept any money at this point, although I appreciate the willingness. It’s been years since I read The Rational Male, and I don’t read Rollo’s blog, so I will re-read the book to see if it would be helpful to Bob. Thanks for the suggestion.

  2. Has Bob told his priest the whole story yet? How has the priest dealt with the wife to date?

    This won’t help Bob right now, but this is another reminder that distance matters even in age of cars and jets. Think hard before you move away from family. If you do take pains to make very close friends.

  3. @ Cane,

    I believe that the priest is aware of the pertinent facts, although I think he learned some of them from the member housing Bob rather than Bob himself. I know that member and the priest were updating each other on a daily basis in the first 3-4 days after the arrest, but I do not know what was discussed. I also do not know how the priest has dealt with the wife. She did not come to church for several weeks before the arrest, but most people did not think anything of that as she often works weekends. She has also not come to church since the arrest. There is a no-contact provision in Bob’s bail conditions, so if she came to church Bob would have to leave immediately. I expected her to do that as a power play, and I’ve chalked up the fact that she hasn’t to unwillingness to face the priest, but I may be wrong in that assessment.

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