As I mentioned in my last post, I participated briefly in an ongoing discussion at Donal Graeme’s, and while I haven’t added anything to the conversation since that post, I’ve been watching it with interest. I stopped commenting because the discussion seemed to me to devolve into useless bellyaching: “Christian men looking for a wife have it hard.” “Christian women looking for a husband have it hard too!” “Men have it harder.” “Do not!” Do too!”
I’m not going to participate in that.
Frankly, this blog is not at all about finding a wife. It’s about being a Godly man. You can be a Godly man without a wife. You can be a Godly man with a wife. But anytime your focus is on finding a wife rather than following after God, your priorities are fucked.
What is your call?
Our call is not to find a wife (though we may well do that). Our call is greater than that. We are called to be watchmen, to give warning despite the hostility and hatred we encounter even in God’s house.
Isaiah’s wife was a prophetess, but he barely mentions her, writing instead the message he received from the Lord.
Jeremiah preached his message despite being told not to take a wife.
Hosea preached his message despite being told to marry a slut.
Are you more righteous than these?
No. You must also preach your message, regardless of whether or not you find a wife. If your call is to denounce the mockery the church and culture has made of marriage, so be it. But when your message becomes personal, about what you want, it has become worthless. This is bigger and greater than you and your desire for a wife. It is a battle, and if you or I suffers or dies on the field, that’s an acceptable loss. Those who came before us spoke of war, calamity, and destruction, yet you waste your time complaining about not finding a wife?
Who can write of their own woes when the Lord has a message to be preached?
A lion has roared! Who is not afraid? The sovereign LORD has spoken! Who can refuse to prophesy? —Amos 3:8